You have a group chat full of people who do not live your life giving you their opinion on your life.
And you have been collecting those opinions like votes. Like your own decision was a democracy. Like the thing you already knew in your gut before you asked a single person needed forty-seven other signatures before you were allowed to act on it.
I went all the way in on this today. Why your gut knowing arrives without the comfort of certainty and why that discomfort sends most people running for outside validation instead of trusting what they already know. The neuroscience of what happens to your brain every time you outsource a decision how it weakens the self-trust pathway and strengthens the dependency on external opinion, until your nervous system stops being able to access its own knowing quickly. The ship captain analogy. How school and social media trained you to ask first instead of trust first. The woman who polled forty-seven people about a major decision and discovered they were split right down the middle, while her own answer had not changed once from the very beginning. And Moses and Jethro the real lesson about which decisions are yours to carry directly and which voices were never meant to get a vote.
You are the captain of your own ship. The people standing on the dock do not get to steer it, no matter how loudly they shout directions.
Go listen. Then write down what you already know before you ask one more person.
I’m Branden LaNette. Voice Authority Podcast Coach. Your mess is your message. Your potential is your purpose. Get the fuck over yourself and go build it. Check the show notes. Come work with me.
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Branden LaNette
Podcast Coach
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